Limits

people need to understand what limits means, types of limits, how you can manage your limits, and how you set limits; as limits are important in our lives written by Reeman Rizg

Note: This article is going to be just a short introduction for the series.

I believe that everything in this life has limits, as they say in Arabic "لا افراط ولا تفريط" means no excess or negligence; and in simple example that you will understand the situation from; You can’t joke about everything, but at the same time you can’t take everything in a serious way; over joking will cause you problems as so as not joking at all. And that’s the simplest way of telling how limits are really important even in “Jokes” because it’s the way of managing, but before getting too deep, let me tell you what does the word limit mean:

- What does “LIMITS” mean?

 It means to set bounds for, although limits are an instinctive matter in humans, imagine a kid being touched by a stranger, will the kid feel okay with it? Absolutely not, the kid probably is going to feel uncomfortable, and he will deal with it in his own way but probably he will run away for his parents and tell them, but as a matter of fact limits most of the time is miss used by people.

But I think everyone has to set their own limits, you have the total freedom of putting limits in your life, but in the series you’re going to learn how you can set a limit.

- Should limits always be “MAXIMUM” or “Minimum limits” do exist?

Most of the time people use maximum as a limit, but yet minimum limits exist, and sometimes it’s the total opposite; minimum exists when maximum; for example, you have minimum limits in praying but do you have a maximum? I think not because Allah will always listen to you and your prayers.

- How can you set a limit?

When you set a specific limit for yourself you will have to understand the reason, it’s minimum and maximum, and if it was a limit between you and people, you should show them the limit trying not to say it because nobody is going to take a list of your limits, so you will have to use a method where people understand their limits with you but at the same time without making them feel like they’re unwelcome in your life, because in this way you’re probably going to lose many friends and relationships, so that’s why when you set a limit you should know how to manage it.

 - Can someone break your limits?

 Sometimes you get confused that you allow some people to break the limit that nobody is capable of breaking. Well, this situation probably happens with people you either feel comfortable with or people that you love, such as physical touch, many people don’t use it as a love language or they really hate it but then if their parents hugged them they would feel comfortable, so it’s okay, some people can really break your limits but you have to make sure that you’re still in the safe side and it’s totally by your agreement, don’t allow anyone to go beyond your limits without your allowance.

 - What are the types of limits?

There are many types of limits, they can be in many different parts of life; as time has limits, people have limits, eating, sleeping, studying and talking; all these small behaviors and acts go with limits. As I said, you can set yourself your own limits, so I think limits are countless, but I will try to take the main types of limits and the most important to talk about in this series!

This is the first time that an article written by me is without a conclusion, but it’s because I didn’t talk enough about this topic, if you want to read more about limits between you and people, wait for the coming article that is going to be totally about this topic since it really needs to be taken seriously, as I’m going to talk about another limits, but in this article I mentioned “limits between you and people” many times, so it’s the topic that’s going to be taken in next article.